Indeed, when we love another person, we believe that this is the man we need, and we are waiting with trepidation for what our relationship will end. We at any cost want to know that he is not indifferent to us, and that we will live with this man happily all my life….
But it turns out that in the period of love, people notice each other, only those traits that I admire, because thanks to the partner that brings out our best faces.
When the initial period of falling in love passes, we are faced with the reality that it is difficult for us to accept. We begin to notice those traits in our partner that were not noticed before. All is exacerbated when the spouse begins to reflect some of our own features that we are not happy and from which we would like to get rid of.
Suppose I have a serious problem with the skin, and whenever I look in the mirror, I have a desire to get rid of the mirror, which reflects my physical defect. The same thing is happening with our partner. He becomes our mirror, and the longer we are with him, the more truth we learn about ourselves. Not looking in a mirror we can not, as it is constantly in front of us. And we begin to confront the fact that this person causes in us. Therefore, we need to learn how to use partnerships in order to learn to discover their own qualities (traits), which we consider unacceptable. When this pattern is unknown to us or when we forget about it, we try to change each other, instead look at ourselves. That’s the cause of our problems. We would like to see in the mirror another reflection. But it is as unreal as rubbing the mirror, hoping that the other person, this drawback will disappear.
Your soul requires you to accept not only those of your traits that you like and that you think is good, but everything that you don’t like about yourself, you condemn yourself (and other people). You attract people who reflect qualities that seem unacceptable for you. Until you accept these traits, you will attract different people who will see them. You must have a sincere desire to use marriage to get to know yourself and learn to treat yourself with acceptance and love.
To accept means to give yourself the right to be myself, an ordinary man, even if this image is not perfect, but remember that it will not be forever. Trying to take negative in our view the private side of himself. we are on the right path.
Only through the adoption of those qualities that annoy us in our partner and “spoil” the relationship, we can go back to harmonious relations and now to the real love in the couple.
That’s what I call love, which is the Foundation of a strong relationship:
Such love I call “liberating”, it is to live I wish you all!
Liz Burbo — the man is a legend in the field of personal growth, writer, philosopher, coach, founder of the school “Listen to your body”, the author of the complete book on the metaphysics of diseases and of unique techniques for personal development.
In my seminars Liz in a simple and accessible form teaches the correct attitude to your body, helping to work through emotional trauma and run positive programs in my life. Changes will not keep itself waiting!
LIZ BURBO in Kiev:
March 9 – your body Language code of love
March 10-12 – Listen to your soul
March 14-15 – Five injuries of the soul
Details on the website: http://ateliers.listentoyourbody-kiev.com
